ExpiringCache required that `start()` be called before it would actually
start expiring entries. A number of places didn't do that.
This PR removes `start` from ExpiringCache, and automatically starts
backround reaping process on creation instead.
It turns out that looping_call does check the deferred returned by its
callback, and (at least in the case of client_ips), we were relying on this,
and I broke it in #3604.
Update run_as_background_process to return the deferred, and make sure we
return it to clock.looping_call.
This fixes#3518, and ensures that we get useful logs and metrics for lots of
things that happen in the background.
(There are certainly more things that happen in the background; these are just
the common ones I've found running a single-process synapse locally).
Instead of calculating the size of the cache repeatedly, which can take
a long time now that it can use a callback, instead cache the size and
update that on insertion and deletion.
This requires changing the cache descriptors to have two caches, one for
pending deferreds and the other for the actual values. There's no reason
to evict from the pending deferreds as they won't take up any more
memory.
We change it so that each cache has an individual CacheMetric, instead
of having one global CacheMetric. This means that when a cache tries to
increment a counter it does not need to go through so many indirections.
Patrick Cloke